Set a goal. Write down the ultimate dream you have for yourself.
Make a daily plan. Figure out an action that you can take every day that sets you on the right path. If you want a new job, maybe make a goal to speak to at least 1 person per day regarding his or her profession. Remember, you don’t have to suffer to get what you want; it just takes commitment and discipline. Over time, small actions will lead to big results.
Write down a long-term plan. It can be a plan for the whole year or simply a month long journey. Do not, however, use this plan to beat yourself up if there are goals you do not reach! This plan is meant to hold you accountable and ensure you’re headed in the right direction. If you find that you are not moving forward the way you intended to, allow yourself to reevaluate your plan.
Have compassion for your journey. This is the most important point of all: when you bring love to your experiences, you bring life to those situations and allow for more growth.
Get started. So what are you waiting for? The world is waiting for you to make your mark. Start today!
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. Depression is for a lifetime, usually, if it a chemical imbalance of sorts, as mine is. I have been on and off of medication since I was 16..that's coming up on 8 years now. I can say I have made progress. Not without many setbacks when I was still younger (not even 20 yet), but I got through those. I can happily say I am on the least amount of medication I ever was, so that's progress to me. I am a recovering and former self injurer as well. Most who know me well understand and may have dealt with similar issues. I have anxiety which manifests itself in the form of certain OCD behaviors. I've learned to deal with it. I'm still young. I still struggle with bi polar type depression to this day, but I know how to handle it better. I learned when I got out of school that life is only going to get harder and that I need to focus on bettering myself to strengthen up for that. I believe we all have a time in our lives where we wonder if we can go on. I have had them, I have gotten through them, fortunately, but not always smoothly. I have had my share of depression induced behaviors and moments I am not proud of. I came to the conclusion that it would never be worth it to end my life, no matter what. I bare scars that I am not proud of, but at the same time, I am not ashamed. It shaped me into the person I am today. 6 years later, I can say I have made enough progress to actually start to enjoy life with minimal extra help. I don't want it to seem like I am glorifying mental illness, but there are a lot of people in this world who I honestly believe, to their dying day, that they have nothing wrong with them. The truth is, so many people experience depression, anxiety, suicidal thought, etc etc, and are ashamed. So many people are bullied in high school and as children, and that can bring anyone down. That's just the tip of the iceberg. Then, there are times that people truly feel that it's the only way out. It isn't I don't feel anyone should be ashamed to want to ask for help if they are feeling depressed. It happens to the best of us, and it doesn't make you or I or anyone else a lesser person for having to experience and cope with such disorders.
You realize that the one person you have to deal with for the rest of your life is none other than...YOURSELF. Boyfriends, friends they come and go...unless you're one of the lucky ones. But keeping the people around that you cherish isn't only luck. treat them with kindness and let them know how much care. The good ones will stick around. Even 6 years later
Behavior change is not merely a matter of knowledge or skill. If that were true, then all the information campaigns on how to improve your health would have made behavior-related illnesses a thing of the past. And birth control information would prevent teen pregnancies. Sadly, many people fail to create lasting change in their behavior and will repeat their failures over and over again in their lives. Have you ever tried to break a habit?
Your Motivation Inventory
Do you have a behavior change project that is important to you? Here is checklist with a fill in the blank to make sure you have all your Motivation Triggers in place.
Away From: I do not want ____________________________________________________________.
Toward: What I want instead is ____________________________________________________________.
Negative Consequences: If I don’t succeed, what will happen that I don’t want? ____________________________________________________________.
Positive Consequences: When I do succeed what will happen that I want?
____________________________________________________________.
I can see in my mind’s eye an example of each of the above.
I have put this new habit inside this procedure that I already do naturally. ____________________________________________________________.
I am regularly accountable to _______________ for completing my goal.
I believe it is possible to do this because: ____________________________________________________________.
I have already succeeded at something like this in my life when I __________________________________________________________.
This is important to me because
_____________________________________________________________.
The kind of person who does this is _____________________________________________________________.
I am that kind of person because _____________________________________________________________.
Away From: I do not want to come home from work and sit on my butt and watch T.V or sit on the computer and wait for someone to come "take care of me".
Toward: What I want instead is to go for a jog after work, hit the gym, read a book at a local park, cook for myself.
Negative Consequences: If I don’t succeed, what will happen that I don’t want? I will feel terrible about not doing what I KNOW will help and I will sulk and give up.
Positive Consequences: When I do succeed what will happen that I want? I will feel good about myself for taking a step in the right direction, I will feel physically and emotionally better about not running to my apartment right from work and doing something with the energy that is flowing through me.
I have put this new habit inside this procedure that I already do naturally. I will begin small, I can simply take a different route home from work and stop in a store that I have never been to and take notice of how I feel doing something out of routine.
I am regularly accountable to MYSELF for completing my goal.
I believe it is possible to do this because: Despite what my anxiety likes to tell me, I am a strong person.
I have already succeeded at something like this in my life when I moved out of my dad's house to NYC.
This is important to me because I left my comfort zone. Although I am still, after 2 years feeling uncomfortable being out of the house and away from my dad, I am 23 years old and I feel proud of myself for leaving.
The kind of person who does this is a independent person, going out to build their own life.
I am that kind of person because that is the kind of person I want to be!
Please I hope you give this a try and maybe even submit your answers. You can start with one simple bad habit, like smoking.
"Landslide" - Fleetwood Mac
Well, I've been afraid of changing
'Cause I've built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older I'm getting older too
Yes I'm getting older too, so
Abandonment represents core human fear. We have all experienced it. When a relationship ends, the feelings harken all the way back to our lost childhoods when we were helpless, and dependent. Our adult functioning temporarily collapses.We feel shattered, bewildered, condemned to loneliness. As we apply the tools of recovery, at the bottom of abandonment's pain, we discover a wellspring of positive change.
Abandonment is a cumulative wound containing all of the losses and disconnections stemming all the way back to childhood. Abandonment is:
What happens in your body when you feel fear?Your issues are rooted in the experience and reality of life...
